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The genuine artist is as much a dissatisfied person as the revolutionary, yet how diametrically opposed are the products each distills from his dissatisfaction. When people are bored, it is primarily with their own selves. Every new adjustment is a crisis in self-esteem. It is thus with most of us; we are what other people say we are. We know ourselves chiefly by hearsay. It is a perplexing and unpleasant truth that when men already have 'something worth fighting for', they do not feel like fighting. You can discover what your enemy fears most by observing the means he uses to frighten you. Many of the insights of the saint stem from his experience as a sinner. Fear comes from uncertainty. When we are absolutely certain, whether of our worth or worthlessness, we are almost impervious to fear. Thus a feeling of utter unworthiness can be a source of courage. Passionate hatred can give meaning and purpose to an empty life. The game of History is usually played by the best and the worst over the heads of the majority in the middle. We do not really feel grateful toward those who make our dreams come true; they ruin our dreams. It is always safe to assume that people are more subtle and less sensitive than they seem. When people are free to do as they please, they usually imitate each other. There can be no real freedom without the freedom to fail. There is a radicalism in all getting, and a conservatism in all keeping. Lovemaking is radical, while marriage is conservative. When people are free to do as they please, they usually imitate each other. Originality is deliberate and forced, and partakes of the nature of a protest. It is the malady of our age that the young are so busy teaching us that they have no time left to learn. People in a hurry cannot think, cannot grow, nor can they decay. They are preserved in a state of perpetual puerility. Rudeness is the weak man's imitation of strength. The poor on the borderline of starvation live purposeful lives. To be engaged in a desperate struggle for food and shelter is to be wholly free from a sense of futility. Power corrupts the few, while weakness corrupts the many. Our credulity is greatest concerning the things we know least about. And since we know least about ourselves, we are ready to believe all that is said about us. Hence the mysterious power of both flattery and calumny. Not actual suffering but the hope of better things incites people to revolt. Every new adjustment is a crisis in self-esteem. Every new adjustment is a crisis in self-esteem. We are made kind by being kind. Faith is primarily a process of identification; the process by which the individual ceases to be himself and becomes part of something eternal. To believe that if only we had this or that we would be happy, or to pursue any excessive desire, diverts us from seeing that happiness depends on an adequate self. Fair play with others is primarily not blaming them for anything that is wrong with us. A preoccupation with the future not only prevents us from seeing the present as it is, but often prompts us to rearrange the past. When people are bored, it is primarily with their own selves that they are bored. We are made kind by being kind. However much we guard against it, we tend to shape ourselves in the image others have of us. It is the around-the-corner brand of hope that prompts people to action, while the distant hope acts as an opiate. When people are free to do as they please, they usually imitate each other. Every new adjustment is a crisis in self-esteem. Even in slight things the experience of the new is rarely without some stirring of foreboding. To have a grievance is to have a purpose in life. The passion to get ahead is sometimes born of the fear lest we be left behind. Fear is uncertainty. We can be absolutely certain only about things we do not understand. We are told that talent creates its own opportunities. But it sometimes seems that intense desire creates not only its own opportunities, but its own talents. It is often the failure who is the pioneer in new lands, new undertakings, and new forms of expression. Treasure the memories of past misfortunes; they constitute our bank of fortitude. It is the child in man that is the source of his uniqueness and creativeness, and the playground is the optimal milieu for the unfolding of his capacities. |